My First Book’s Coming Out. Cue Panic?

My first book releases March 31st. This isn’t the post I thought I’d write about such an occasion, but then– this isn’t the book I thought I’d write, either.  Here’s a confession. Publishing this book is easily one of the most terrifying things I’ve ever done. Writing it involved excavating and articulating stories, fears, and beliefs…

sometimes, “staying together for the kids” needs to suck it

Note: I’m in a (long!) marriage that I love, and I don’t have kids. That said: Many of my friends are contemplating divorce. And I’ve noticed that, when kids are involved, a super-sized ever-present argument gets touted about how parents should “stick it out for the kids.” If you’ve experienced a more nuanced approach to divorce with…

I want to be numbered among the heretics

It’s the heretic who’s out without her jacket, skirt above the knees, showing her bruises, saying, I dare someone to say it’s okay. Try it. The heretic won’t settle out of court, dress suicide as martyrdom, praise the impotence of silence. It’s the heretic who spits out the communion wine if it tastes of poison